Controlling Our Thoughts Before They Control Us

By Jillian Broaddus and Chuck Cusumano

This week’s blog has to do with our thoughts.

You may be thinking… What does “thinking” really have to do with leadership development?  (Besides the obvious, of course.) And the answer is: EVERYTHING.  Our thoughts dictate our actions, our moods, our words, and our life.  They influence why we do what we do and how we do it.  They’re at the crux of who we are.

But, the good news (and the reason we’re writing a blog about this topic!) is that our thoughts are in our control.  Sure, we may spiral at times; some of us, more than others, may be plagued by anxiety, overthinking, or feeling like our thoughts can be overpowering at times.  However, with a little bit of training, you can have power over your thinking—and, therefore, your life!

Let’s start with three fundamental truths about our thought patterns, and tips and tricks on how to be in control:

1. Thoughts do NOT equal fact.  In other words, our thoughts are not always true because our brains can (and do) lie to us.  Therefore, becoming aware of your thoughts is the first step in regaining control of our minds. 

2. Once we are aware, we can reframe our thinking.  Thinking of our thoughts (both the “fact” and “fiction”) through an objective, outside perspective can be fundamental in overcoming the detrimental ones and shifting the narrative. 

3. Nothing changes without practice.  Incorporating mindfulness practices such as meditation, talk therapy, or journaling can promote healthier ways of thinking.  And, while they may feel like foreign or awkward concepts at first, over time, what feels unnatural will become second nature.

If you need two quick exercises to shift your thought patterns, let us introduce two of our favorites:

• From Negative to Positive: Think of your commute home… Now, imagine you were instructed to count how many red cars you saw in that duration.  You make your drive will mindfully tallying every red car you cross paths with.  However, once home, we ask: “How many green cars did you see?”  You, of course, wouldn’t know, because you weren’t looking for them!  What we intentionally seek influences what we know; therefore, you can instantly shift from negative to positive thought patterns by focusing on the positive.  What went well today?  What are three things you are grateful for?  What setback can be viewed as an opportunity, instead of a failure?

• From Language to Thoughts: While thinking influences our words, the vice versa is true, too. By being intentional with our words and environments, we can prime ourselves and our teams toward excellence. So, think of the next communication you plan to put out: an email, company-wide memo, team meeting opener, or anything else. How can you impart positive language into the script to lead your team toward resilience, collaboration, and growth?

Do you have any other favorite practices when it comes to shifting your inner dialogue?  Let us know at hello@thejoshuagroup.net!